I am excited to tell you that my wife, Melissa, plans to start sharing with you here on the blog. Please take time to read and enjoy the following wonderful post from her. – Neil
My husband, Neil, and I talk a lot about things we’ve read or heard. It’s interesting to hear how different our take-aways can be after reading or hearing the same thing. Last week he posted a blog he wrote (click here to view it) and after I read it he asked me what I got from it. The message I heard over and over again in the blog was on being present & mindful. God has really been talking with me a lot about this over the past several months. Neil asked me more about that because he said he had not even thought about it from that angle. God was speaking to him about something different.
People that know me would probably agree that I tend to be busy and have a hard time being still. My son says I’m always cleaning something! I also tend to multi-task and in doing so I never give 100% of myself to any one thing. I pretend that I can listen to someone while doing something else but if I’m honest with myself I would know that I can’t. I’m not being fully present with them nor am I being fully present with the other task I’m trying to complete.
Our minds are powerful things.
Our mind is very powerful. Sometimes it is fuller than others. Sometimes it leads to positive things and other times it leads to a downward spiral of negativity.
Our minds determine our moods.
My mood says a lot about what is going on in my mind. I have a great example of this that happened recently. My family went on a beach vacation last week and we had a great time! It was a much needed time of rest and relaxation. We disconnected from technology for much of our time there and I made a point to just be and not have any agendas. My mood was positive during this time. We laughed and played together and we really enjoyed each other. We walked up and down the beach and saw beautiful sea glass, shells and stones. We talked about images we saw in the clouds. We talked about our desires. We listened to each other. We enjoyed each moment.
Sunday evening rolls around and well……….my mood changed! My mind became full and racing with thoughts of what all I needed to get done before going back to work. Then it became even fuller as I thought about what all I was going to have to do when I arrived at work the next day. I put on my “get busy mask” and got to work cooking and doing laundry. I became very easily frustrated, especially when my husband tried to talk to me. He asked me a general question about something and I snapped back at him. I didn’t want to talk and I didn’t need him to be in my way! I needed him to get back to reality and get out of vacation mode. We didn’t have time for our desires now. As the saying goes, we were back in the real world now. I didn’t have time to be present with anyone!
When our mood heads south, we must pause and take time to ask God what is going on inside of us.
After Neil walked away with his head bitten off I paused. What was going on with me? I didn’t even look like the same Melissa from last week. I made myself stop for a few minutes and answer this question. I expressed my frustration and anger to God. I told him that I hated being this way. How could I get everything done and be present at the same time? He asked me a question that He has asked me several times before. I felt God asking me why I was doing all these things? Why did all these things have to be done right now? He wanted me to get to the real heart issue.
Believing a lie can ruin the things we enjoy doing the most.
I tend to believe the lie that I have to have it all together, or at least look like I do. We love to eat delicious, whole foods so therefore I have to cook all the time. I love order therefore I have to keep everything clean all the time. I love to cook and believe it or not I love to clean (I know I’m weird) so why the frustration?
I was doing things God has given me a desire to do but I was doing them based on a lie I was believing. The acts were being done because I had to have it all together. That turned these acts into a chore. That led to frustration with the acts and with anyone that got in my way of my goal of having it all together.
Trusting Him fills us with truth and love that makes our heart sing instead of yell.
A verse I reflect on a lot and that combats this lie I tend to believe is Psalm 46:10. Most people know the ESV version, “Be still, and know that I am God.” The Message translation says it this way: “Step out of the traffic! Take a long, loving look at me, your High God, above politics, above everything.” God gave me these desires. He made me to love performing acts of service. If I perform them as a gift from God then I can be present in them. They are not a chore. They are an act of love from God. They make my heart sing instead of yell.
-Melissa
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